Don't Should On Yourself

Many years ago, my wonderful friend Jan told me how to advise patients to make small changes in your diet to lose weight. He said that one of the main obstacles block experience with weight loss is the feeling of guilt. It was not only unable to follow a special meal plan or exercise, although this was certainly a factor. Rather, it was this overwhelming sense of failure at not being able to do what she thinks "should" have been able to do. Because their customers were constantly saying "I should eat better, exercise more should," "I would not have had the cookies, because now I'm a bad person," I came up with this wonderful phrase: not to do themselves. It is not that a wonderful piece of advice? Well, you really should see what they say, and that you are when you say that, but, when said correctly, that covers a lot of feelings. Think for a moment . What you experience when you are not doing the things that "should" have done and how it feels when it has reached its financial goal? When you have not lost all the weight they must lose the idea in a week? Probably not good. Why do you think this is true? Usually it's because you've set yourself a goal (run 5 miles every day or not eating chocolate again) that it is impossible to fulfill. So when you fail to comply with this objective, you feel ugly. For some, therefore, while we often say "patience is a virtue, we are able to apply to personal situations, how to improve our health by losing weight and start exercising. Fix surprisingly unrealistic goals (lose 25 pounds run a marathon) and we hope to achieve this goal, yesterday. We set high expectations for ourselves goals that are impossible to meet. Then when we realize that we can live with these expectations, we conclude that no, he had never seen that was not the only result we could expect. Becoming "at peace with food" is a journey that involves the development of a new relationship with food. Instead of being marked by frustration and disappointment, fear and competition between you and the food we eat, the food has finally its place as one of the many activities in his life, along with family, friends, work and be active. be at peace with the food, and with yourself can make decisions to improve their health, which are more realistic. You learn to move more slowly, to realize that they are competing to become healthy. On the contrary, is developing a new relationship with each other, and new relationships, if you want to be good, take time. You will learn to set realistic goals, starting slowly and building. For example, start walking five minutes three times a week and build to 25-30 minutes three times a week . Do you realize you are full after eating 2 cookies, so you do not have to eat five. learns to appreciate smaller portions, because he knows he is allowed to eat more if desired. Finally, learn how to change the behavior, because you realize you want, not because you must. Copyright (c) 2008 At Peace with Food